We Are NOT Alone...

Recently divorced and feeling alone? Statistics show that Generation EX is many members strong!

Here's a sampling of some of the most recently available statistics on marriage and divorce in Canada:

About 48.5% of the adult population in Canada was married in 2006 (as opposed to single, separated, divorced, widowed or living in common law). This is the first known time in Canadian history that the percentage was under half; according to CanWest News Service, the figure was 50.1% in 2001 and more than 60% during the 1980s.

The number of marriages in the country was 149,236 in 2006 -- down nearly 2,000 from the previous year, but up from 148,585 in 2004.

In 2006, there were 1,629,490 divorced Canadians -- or about 5% of the population. 941,306 (well over half) of the divorcees were female.

As of 2006, there were 1,414,060 single-parent families in Canada -- or approximately 15.9% of all families. Of the lone-parent families, 1,132,290 were headed by the mother. In 1971, the number was approximately 476,300.

There were 70,828 divorces in 2003 -- down from 71,144 in 2000.

More than one-third of marriages in Canada will end in divorce before the thirtieth anniversary.

A recent study from the National Population Health Survey shows that men between the ages of 20 and 64 are six times as likely to suffer from depression if they were divorced or separated, than if they stayed married. For women, the figure is 3.5 times as likely for the divorced or separated.

According to the same NPHS survey, 43% of women who have undergone a marital breakup (divorce or separation) had a substantial decrease in household income, while 15% of separated or divorced men had a financial decline.

(Source: Statistics Canada)

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Marriages and Mortgages

From one of my favourite divorce resource on the web (www.divorcemag.com) comes today's blog. Enjoy!

Of Marriages and Mortgages
By Michael Beninger

I've always felt statistics were a lot like the Bible: keep looking long enough and you're going to find something that proves you're absolutely right. But no matter how skeptical you are about statistics, there is little doubt that divorce is on the rise.
Then again, so is marriage, which only makes sense, if you think about it. There's bound to be more marriages if everybody is doing it two or three times. Just look at what California alone does to the average.

Now, the most commonly quoted statistic is that half of all marriages end in divorce. They don't say how the other half end, but death is a good bet. In any event, if you have 10 married couples as friends, chances are that five of them are going to hit the skids sometime. Not a very comforting thought, to be sure. But perhaps the problem lies in our expectations: "Till death do us part." Forever. Without end. Anything less and it's total failure. Maybe this is the wrong attitude. What about treating a marriage somewhat like a mortgage?

You remember back 30 years or so? A mortgage was at 6% for 25 years. Simple. You locked in, and didn't get out until you were almost dead. Times were much simpler then, and so were mortgages.
Look at today. You may enter into a mortgage with a 25-year amortization, but there is a five-year term. At the end of the term, you sit down and negotiate the next period of time. If you can't reach an agreement, you switch institutions.
You start out fully intending to go the distance, but there are milestones that give both sides a chance to take a second look. At 27 years of age, you thought Royal Bank was the only bank for you. But now, at 32, the Toronto Dominion bank is looking rather fetching.

Using this sort of system, marriage failures would be greatly lessened. In order to succeed, you'd only have to make it to the first re-negotiation point. If it doesn't work out, you cut a new deal.
And just like the mortgage business, things may be a little different when re-negotiation time rolls around. In the mortgage business, the interest rates may be sky high, so you only go for a year to eighteen months. Well, maybe that's all she's willing to agree to, now that she's seen what you look like in the morning, or knows what happens after you eat cabbage rolls.

You see, marriage has been for forever for, well, forever. It hasn't adapted, hasn't moved with the times. Heck, cars used to last 20 years. You see any carmakers offering 20-year warranties these days? No siree! They've come to understand the temporary nature of today's society, and build their cars accordingly.

Under this new system of marriage, we wouldn't hear so much about rising rates of divorce. People would talk about a couple they know, and say, "They were a very successful couple. They re-negotiated three times, and finally got out of it with a lump sum payment."

Michael Beninger is a freelance writer living in Victoria, B.C. He has had two wives, one divorce, and numerous mortgages.